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The Beauty-Brain Loop

The Beauty-Brain Loop

“You are one thing only. You are a Divine Being. An all-powerful Creator. You are a Deity in jeans and a t-shirt, and within you dwells the infinite wisdom of the ages and the sacred creative force of All that is, will be and ever was.” ~Anthon St. Maarten

I found an interesting article titled the Beauty-Brain Loop by Dr Debra and Dr Eva. The idea is that four main areas – Inner Beauty, Health, Outer Beauty and Environment are all related and affected by each other. “Everything you do shapes how you feel and how attractive you are. So, how you feel is how you look. Also, how you think is how you feel.”

  • Inner Beauty has to do with mental and emotional well-being, self-esteem, self-awareness and self-confidence
  • Health is part of the loop to do with taking care of your body and physical health through nutrition, exercise, sleep and leading a healthy lifestyle
  • Outer Beauty has to do with maintaining your external looks – skin, nails, hair and make-up
  • Environment has to do with the feedback you get from your surroundings: home, work, relationships and friendships

    So, how exactly does this concept work? “It’s about keeping all areas of the loop flowing,” says Dr Debra. “For example, when someone pays you a compliment and says you look really beautiful today, you actually start to feel more beautiful.” In essence, the more beautiful we feel, the more we want to maintain that feel-good state. So, we start to look after ourselves more – whether by exercising, eating better or maintaining physical looks and care.

    Then it goes to reason that the better we feel and look, the more positive the response we’ll get from our environment. Friends tell us how great we look, people are more attracted to us and we feel confident.

    The downside, of course, is that when one factor is not working, there evolves a negative cycle. Think about it – we rarely feel pretty when we’re sick or suffering from cramps or some other physical struggle. When we feel ugly or fat, it’s rarely the motivation we need to get out and go for a run or a swim and eat healthy foods…we seek comfort foods and chick flicks.

    The good news is that it only takes a boost in one of the categories to help start the upward positive cycle…and there are gobs of ideas to help jumpstart this beauty cycle…namely everything I’ve been writing about for months! Here are a few: practice a random act of kindness, go for a walk, create something, fill your moment with beauty in the form of art or nature, try a new healthy recipe, sign up for a race, learn something new, do something that will make you laugh, get a good night’s sleep, wear an outfit you feel sexy in, get a pedicure, buy some flowers. This list could be endless, but these are to get your mind out of the traditional mindset that you can only feel pretty if you look in the mirror and see what you judge as pretty. NOT SO! Yours are the harshest and most judgemental eyes ever to set sight on yourself. Did you realize studies show that on average others see you as 20% more attractive than you see yourself? They’re not seeing that stray eyebrow hair you see when you look in the mirror – instead they’re seeing your movements, your laughter, your body language – all the things you miss.

    The truth is, you’re more beautiful than you’ll probably ever give yourself credit for…and if you can’t see that, then you can at least FEEL it. Treat yourself like the temple and goddess (or god) that you are, and love the body you’ve been loaned for this short life. Breathe and live fully the way we were designed to live. Please pretty please stop shrinking inside your own body! …and I’ll try and do the same!

  • The Art of the Imperfect

    The Art of the Imperfect

    “If you look closely at a tree you’ll notice its knots and dead branches, just like our bodies. What we learn is that beauty and imperfection go together wonderfully.” ~Matthew Fox

    I love the video below. It’s about approaching life through our imperfections to make something beautiful. He’s an artist, so he actually creates art, but aren’t we all artists creating something beautiful from our imperfections? It’s our limitations that can drive our creativity.

    Don’t shy away from your quirks or faults or shortcomings or whatever you call them…embrace them. Show them off and use them to be more you than you’ve ever dared to be. There are enough cookie-cutter people out there, with myriads more training and waiting in the wings. What the world doesn’t have is another YOU. Be quirky, be flawed, but be you. Give back to the world some of that imperfection to make this world a little better than it was before you got here.

    “Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” ~Leonard Cohen