Self-Rejection

Self-Rejection

“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody.” … [My dark side says,] I am no good… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.” Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.” ~ Henri J.M. Nouwen (one of my favorite authors)

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  1. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.” Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.” ~ Henri J.M. Nouwen

    Smile warmly upon yourself. You’ve come a very long way when you realize the truth of this.

  2. I’ve had almost 200 sales over the years at most of the usual ptbuicalions womags write for and have never been told, ‘this is almost certainly a sale but you need to wait’. I’ve been shortlisted (aussie mag) but that system was never a guarantee of a sale unless you ended up getting another ‘congratulations’ email and an issue assigned.Anon, congrats on taking the plunge to full time writing and your success. I do believe though that any writer doing that needs to go into it fully realising that payment will be a feast or famine. If life was fairer, if payments were prompt, if accounts departments were perfect, life would be a lot easier for freelancers but unfortunately it doesn’t work out that way. Plumbers expect to encounter bad smells, chefs expect to work late nights and weekend work, full-time freelance writers should expect sometimes months of waiting between payments – no it’s not fair, but it is reality.Some writers are probably in a financial position where the long wait between payments won’t be an issue, but for those who need a regular weekly or fortnightly income, then freelance writing is one of the riskier occupations to undertake.AAAP

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