“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” ~Harriet Beecher Stowe
First, stop and take an opportunity to breathe in life, and exhale out all the worries and stress that found their way into your week. Look around you and see color (unless you’re color blind). Listen to the sounds. Feel your heart beating. You get to be a part of life today! You are a real character in this real deal, no shit miraculous life! But then as soon as your focus comes back to you, something happens. The stresses, the worry, and the self-imposed weight of the world comes barreling back to resettle itself squarely on your shoulders, and you’re left feeling confused. If life is so great, and I’m meant to be this wonderful moving piece of it, then why am I sitting here feeling like a broken cog from a rusty wheel?
Some good news is that confusion usually immediately precedes a new realization…so this feeling little and confused place that you’re in is a good and even natural part of life…and it’s about to get better. It’s one of those natural life-laws that we all follow: that clarity is ALWAYS preceded by confusion. In fact, our minds NEED confusion in order to have personal breakthroughs.
Here is what apparently goes on…our minds are seeking a solution that doesn’t exist given our current internal brain connections (memories), so our unconscious mind takes all of our existing information and creates a new connection (a new memory) and it unfolds as a sudden burst of brilliance. Because it’s not in our basic survival makeup to just give up and die, we ask questions – lots of questions – and seek solutions when we’re at a point of confusion or a cross-roads in life and don’t know where to go next. After all the obvious questions and answers have been exhausted, you elevate yourself to a new point of creativity where your answer or realization will present itself. Your brain connects the unrelated and random information into a whole new solution. It’s either that or have a nervous breakdown. I’ll choose the former, please!
It’s like being told to write down fifty ideas for a date. The first twenty or so will be the obvious “go to dinner,” “see a movie,” “go for a walk on the beach,” and that sort of thing. But by the time you force yourself to fifty, you’ll have bizarre things like “go on a roller coaster,” and “make up a scavenger hunt” that you would never have thought of initially. Confusion is that same exercise – forcing us to dwell on our dilemmas long enough to the point of enlightenment.
So what? What good does that do you in your down and out state? Remind yourself that asking questions without answers and searching for helpful information is a good thing. Don’t give up on yourself because your intense desire to find a way will actually find your way. Don’t shy away from confusion – heck, confusing yourself more will actually help you to come to a purposeful inspiration.
“Confusion heard his voice, and wild uproar Stood ruled, stood vast infinitude confined; Till at his second bidding darkness fled, Light shone, and order from disorder sprung.” ~John Milton