Monthly Archives: July 2012

It’s Not ALL About YOU

It’s Not ALL About YOU

“When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” -Miguel Ruiz

I love having no clue what I’m going to write about next because all I can do is wait patiently for the universe to teach me my next lesson – whatever it may be. Today’s lesson came in the form of a phone call from a friend. I was explaining that I was sick of doing things I thought other people wanted me to do instead of what I wanted to do. She suddenly interrupted and said, “I never asked you to do things you didn’t want to do.” It stopped my in my tracks and I shook my head smiling and gently chided, “This isn’t about you, it’s about me.” We both laughed and moved on in conversation, but as I thought about the conversation dynamic, I realized how often we take what other people are saying and make it our own whether it was meant for us or not.

It’s not all about you. I read a funny definition of paranoia online: It’s when you’re sitting in the bleachers at a football game, watching the players in a huddle, convinced they’re talking about you.

There’s a certain freedom to understanding that when other people snap, cut you off, don’t respond, or even say something unusually rude, it’s usually not about you. I have to caveat it with usually because I’m sure there’s the rare sometimes. We tend to give ourselves more social credit than is due to us. For example, I used to be physically unable to say no to a social invitation because I didn’t want to appear rude. Sounds ridiculous, right? It wasn’t until I finally understood that the happiness level at the party was not dependent upon my presence and my uniquely gifted charisma. I had imposed too much self-importance to the point of unneeded stress.

This happens every single day – whether in big-boom or little pebble sort of ways. There is a conscious choice we make to either take it personally and let our day be a little gloomier while our shoulders sag just a little more, or we can understand that the rude behavior was not aimed at us and let it roll off our back. An unanswered text, a brush-off from a boss, a sudden exit from a phone call, being cut off in traffic with an accompanied “bird,” an acquaintance in public that doesn’t recognize you. Don’t you dare say to yourself, “What did I do wrong?”…because the answer is nothing. That person is not responding to you or anything you’ve done. The goal is to get to a point that when we come across someone who’s a real crab, and we can say, “Wow, they’re having a tough day,” and leave it at that.

I think this lesson is especially hard for me because I’m a recovering people pleaser, so any amount of dissatisfaction from other people is a big no-no in my book…also I’ve been around a lot of yelling and anger that feels both deeply personal and hurtful. To lift myself above my initial hyper-sensitive reaction, I have to understand that the anger is coming from a deep place that was likely already there before I was, and that it is not being aimed at me. Note: I’m going to make a second caveat here and say that if you’re in the middle of a relationship that is either verbally or physically abusive, even though his anger is not about you, you still need to get the hell outta there and go surround yourself with some serious TLC…because his anger will eventually eat away at you until it becomes your anger too.

I realize I’m writing this on the brink of the unleashing of the next generation who is our most self-righteous and entitled generation yet, so this message can extend beyond the “don’t take it personally” to the “no really, the world does not actually revolve around you.”

Hooray for Confusion!

Hooray for Confusion!

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” ~Harriet Beecher Stowe

First, stop and take an opportunity to breathe in life, and exhale out all the worries and stress that found their way into your week. Look around you and see color (unless you’re color blind). Listen to the sounds. Feel your heart beating. You get to be a part of life today! You are a real character in this real deal, no shit miraculous life! But then as soon as your focus comes back to you, something happens. The stresses, the worry, and the self-imposed weight of the world comes barreling back to resettle itself squarely on your shoulders, and you’re left feeling confused. If life is so great, and I’m meant to be this wonderful moving piece of it, then why am I sitting here feeling like a broken cog from a rusty wheel?

Some good news is that confusion usually immediately precedes a new realization…so this feeling little and confused place that you’re in is a good and even natural part of life…and it’s about to get better. It’s one of those natural life-laws that we all follow: that clarity is ALWAYS preceded by confusion. In fact, our minds NEED confusion in order to have personal breakthroughs.

Here is what apparently goes on…our minds are seeking a solution that doesn’t exist given our current internal brain connections (memories), so our unconscious mind takes all of our existing information and creates a new connection (a new memory) and it unfolds as a sudden burst of brilliance. Because it’s not in our basic survival makeup to just give up and die, we ask questions – lots of questions – and seek solutions when we’re at a point of confusion or a cross-roads in life and don’t know where to go next. After all the obvious questions and answers have been exhausted, you elevate yourself to a new point of creativity where your answer or realization will present itself. Your brain connects the unrelated and random information into a whole new solution. It’s either that or have a nervous breakdown. I’ll choose the former, please!

It’s like being told to write down fifty ideas for a date. The first twenty or so will be the obvious “go to dinner,” “see a movie,” “go for a walk on the beach,” and that sort of thing. But by the time you force yourself to fifty, you’ll have bizarre things like “go on a roller coaster,” and “make up a scavenger hunt” that you would never have thought of initially. Confusion is that same exercise – forcing us to dwell on our dilemmas long enough to the point of enlightenment.

So what? What good does that do you in your down and out state? Remind yourself that asking questions without answers and searching for helpful information is a good thing. Don’t give up on yourself because your intense desire to find a way will actually find your way. Don’t shy away from confusion – heck, confusing yourself more will actually help you to come to a purposeful inspiration.

“Confusion heard his voice, and wild uproar Stood ruled, stood vast infinitude confined; Till at his second bidding darkness fled, Light shone, and order from disorder sprung.” ~John Milton

Tough Truths

Tough Truths

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

The very day after I write about disliking online lists, I come across one I like….like enough to repost and forward to promote it. I should clarify, though, that my dislike remains for “how-to” lists…how to live more fully, how to find the artist in you, how to be happier – that sort of thing rarely comes from a list – it comes from unique and insightful blogs! Kidding of course, it comes from you getting out of your own way enough to listen to the world already whispering your name.

This website is chalk full of lists, but they are good. I’m going to pass one along today – 12 Tough Truths that Help You Grow. I chose it because it’s the most applicable to me and things I need to remind myself right now…my only tweak was to add quotes at the end of some of the truths. I hope you can relate as well. “Sometimes the truths you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.” Here are twelve such truths…

1. Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be – how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place. “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” – Benjamin Spock

2. Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it. Read Awaken the Giant Within.

3. It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up being the most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released. “Falling down is how we grow. Staying down is how we die.” ~Brian Vaszily

4. One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself again someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream. “How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” ~Trina Paulus

5. You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you. Read Psycho-Cybernetics.

6. One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself. “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

7. You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world. “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” ~Albert Ellis

8. The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now. “This life is yours. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy.” ~Susan Polis

9. Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term. “Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often.” ~Mark Twain

10. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away. Read The Happiness Project.

11. Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. “Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure… than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

12. Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again. “I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish that He didn’t trust me so much.” ~Mother Teresa

“Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can lose.” – Tom Krause

“The key to change… is to let go of fear.” – Rosanne Cash

“If you wait to do everything until you’re sure it’s right, you’ll probably never do much of anything.” – Win Borden

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” ~M. Kathleen Casey

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” – John Maxwell

“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Action will remove the doubt that theory cannot solve.” – Petryl Hsieh

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” – Confucius

“Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.” – Buddha

“Do what you want and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Suess

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” – Maria Robinson

“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.” ~Edmund Hillary

The Art of the Imperfect

The Art of the Imperfect

“If you look closely at a tree you’ll notice its knots and dead branches, just like our bodies. What we learn is that beauty and imperfection go together wonderfully.” ~Matthew Fox

I love the video below. It’s about approaching life through our imperfections to make something beautiful. He’s an artist, so he actually creates art, but aren’t we all artists creating something beautiful from our imperfections? It’s our limitations that can drive our creativity.

Don’t shy away from your quirks or faults or shortcomings or whatever you call them…embrace them. Show them off and use them to be more you than you’ve ever dared to be. There are enough cookie-cutter people out there, with myriads more training and waiting in the wings. What the world doesn’t have is another YOU. Be quirky, be flawed, but be you. Give back to the world some of that imperfection to make this world a little better than it was before you got here.

“Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” ~Leonard Cohen

Be Adventurous

Be Adventurous

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go out and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ~Howard Thurman

Is this a question you’ve asked yourself lately?: “If life is meant to be an adventure, then where did I go wrong? And what the heck is adventurous about sitting here reading a blog?”

I saw a quirky movie on Netflix recently. The movie, “The Answer Man,” was cute, but one line from it really made me think. I transcribed the woman’s comment, and the man’s response…which is the part that struck me.

Elizabeth: “What do you want to hear? You wanna hear that I’m so freaked out that I’m not doing all I can…that I’m so freaked out all the time? That I’m afraid I’m not doing enough and that fear is turning me into something I don’t want to be, and I can’t stop it? You have no idea what it’s like to be pulled all the time by this idea that I am not doing enough, that I am not enough!”

Arlen: “He knows. And He wants you to know that you ARE enough, and so much more! You are here so God can experience the world through your eyes…to see what you see, to feel what you feel. Every day, He can’t wait to see what you’ll do…what makes you laugh, what moves you…He can’t wait! Every day through you, He falls in love with the world all over again. You are His muse!”


What a beautiful notion…and what’s more, it inspired me to get off my bum watching Netflix and go out to participate in the sunny day just outside the window. I wanted to be God’s muse and have Him see what I saw, and I didn’t want it to be a computer screen, so I went down to the beach. I swam for an hour until I was blissfully exhausted in nature’s beautiful playground. As I began to make my way back toward the beach, I watched all the kids running around playing in the sand. I felt like in my swim I had just let myself be one of them – playing, being adventurous, and loving the day and the moment.

I’m normally not the kind to read self-help how-to types of articles, because they all end up as basic lists like “try something new,” and “say hello to the next person you pass by.” But this article, non-adventurously titled “How to Be Adventurous,” was actually quite good. The author, Brad Bollenbach, writes that “if your life is anything less than interesting and inspiring to other people, you’re doing something wrong.”

He asserts that there is no best time but this time to start living the adventurous life, and that the only thing stopping most people from taking action is not less-than-ideal circumstances, but instead our own heads. “While many people will say that some of these things [dreams] are out of their reach, the truth is that you’re only ever either taking action to achieve a specific goal, or making excuses for why you aren’t.”

This doesn’t have to be closing up shop and moving to Hong Kong tomorrow (though that utterly appeals). It can be as simple as going outside, looking up at the clouds and breathing in a breath of gratitude. Participate in Life, don’t isolate and shy away from it. Go out and be a part of today – partake in the adventure that’s already happening. Be the hero or heroine in your own life, and let God (or whatever higher, intelligent being you believe in) see the world’s beauty and adventures through your eyes. Make today count!

Let Go and Forgive

Let Go and Forgive

“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.” ~Anatole France

The challenge is to let go of our past in order to make space in our hearts for love today. If our past is the sum total of who we are today, how can we hold onto the good, but let go of the bad in order to make space for more good? How can we forgive the past hurts, heartbreaks, disappointments, betrayals and lies?

Letting go is difficult because we often define and identify ourselves by our pain. Holding on to anger can come to be a comfort blanket, as is the role of being the victim or the wronged. But those painful memories take up space…space that isn’t doing a damn bit of good for us…space that keeps all the good stuff like joy and love at bay.

A helpful analogy I read was that moving on in life is like stepping through a door and firmly but gently closing it behind you…no slamming. It’s a nice vision of moving forward without lingering anger and free of past pains. It doesn’t mean forgetting the past, but instead forgiving it and deciding to live in the now instead of in the past.

Clinging to past pain also causes our bodies pain. The stress and anxiety take a toll on our immune systems and getting sick becomes more routine than it should. It also causes us to age faster – both inside and outside. There’s nothing helpful or healthy about choosing to feel hurt today because of our past. And believe it or not, but it is a choice. We can choose to put the draining cycle of anger and hurt behind that closed door, and stop missing out on the beauty of life as it happens.

It’s essential that we learn to forgive so we can move on. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person’s edification, it’s for yours. It’s not forgetting, but it’s letting go. Forgiveness allows you to release the chains of resentment you’ve bound between yourself and the memory. Forgiveness closes the door gently but firmly, and allows you to face the light of your tomorrow.

We are who we are today because of the trials of our past, but we don’t have to let them dictate any further than that. I am grateful for the hard lessons I’ve endured because they have made me a stronger person today. I smile back at all the good times – I will cherish those forever – and I walk firmly on and away from the painful past.

People are Amazing

People are Amazing

“The important achievement of Apollo was demonstrating that humanity is not forever chained to this planet and our visions go rather further than that and our opportunities are unlimited.” ~Neil Armstrong



We are an awesome species – capable of reaching feats of physical achievements while also reaching deep into our emotional and spiritual cores for untouched depth of meaning and feeling more than any other creature could possibly fathom.

We have the capacity to be hurt by another and then to forgive them and move on in peace. Heck, we have the capacity to forgive ourselves for our own reckless mistakes, which in itself is a miracle. That we can have compassion, sympathy, understanding and curiosity are all unique and remarkable talents that should never be undervalued.

How exactly do we differ from our other animal earth-mates? We have the gift of expression of self through voice – a gift too often neglected. (How many relationships fall apart simply from lack of good communication?) We stand upright and have disciplined our bodies to do awe-inspiring physical feats – from climbing vertical rock walls to doing flips in the air on bicycles, or cars, or practically anything. We can dance, swim, jump, climb, flip, slide, soar – no movement has been untapped. We have hands that can hold and make things. We fashion tools and technology to build up our world out of our own imaginations….which leads to our brains. We have the largest brain capacity of any living being, and with that comes thought, emotion, imagination, creativity, innovation, and art. And finally, we have longer childhoods than any other animals…maybe that helps foster our talents to use later on, or maybe we just need a LOT longer to mature than other beings.

Look at the wisdom, philosophy, poetry and art that has come from people. Look at the heights and depths our one species has gone to, both on our planet and beyond. There is no inward and outward limit to what we are capable of reaching….except maybe black holes…I’d stay away from them.

It’s an element of gratitude I feel when I wake up and look at what I am a part of. Ultimately, it is a world of goodness and love, of reaching higher and further, of fighting through the valleys for the mountain tops, and of good overcoming evil. Yes there is pain and suffering all around us, and yes there are people who hurt others just for the sake of hurting them. But thank God they are the deviants of our kind. In spite of hunger and pain and loss, we still default toward the good and joyful state of living.

In spite of life’s lemons, I’m struck by the spark inside of me that won’t give up on the notion of goodness and love and risk and courage, and all that is good about us. We get knocked down so much, yet there is that unkillable drive to stand back up and keep going, fully expecting another fall further ahead. No matter how much hurt or pain you endure, you’re going to be ok, and that spark to get up and try again will always be there…it’s in our humanity.

We have the ability to do anything, to help anyone, to make changes big or small…that is ours. We intrinsically want to live better tomorrow than we did today, and strive for evolving toward that better state.

“It’s amazing what ordinary people can do if they set out without preconceived notions.” ~Charles F. Kettering

Take Care of Yourself

Take Care of Yourself

“The world believes exactly what you tell it—through the words you use to describe yourself, the actions you take to care for yourself, and the choices you make to express yourself. Tell the world you are one-of-a-kind creation who came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated.” ~Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty

It’s not the biggest leap of logic to understand the importance of self-care in life. Life tears us apart both from the outside and the inside, and the most fundamental way of making sure we’re able to stand up eight times after falling down seven (Chinese proverb) is to take care of ourselves physically and emotionally. If life’s current special of the day continues to be a bowl of lemons, the least we can do is arm ourselves with basic health and nurturing.

I found a simple breakdown of what taking care of ourselves should look like.

Self Care IS:

  • Eating right, getting proper nutrition, and drinking enough water. Just a 2% dip in body dehydration can cause fatigue, headaches, and depression, as well as a 20% loss in energy!
  • Enjoying some form of physical activity every day. A morning (or evening) walk is all it takes.
  • Monitoring one’s emotional bank account, ensuring that one is making ample emotional deposits to cover the daily withdrawals of life, so that one does not become emotionally “overdrawn.”
  • Knowing one’s limits; it is important to know how much one is able to effectively do in a day or a week without becoming over exhausted, over emotional, or overwhelmed.
  • Being self aware of internal pain and using it as an impetus for growth. Rather than attempting to ignore it or anesthetizing it with food, TV, more work etc., addressing the pain is very self-nurturing. Relevant self-help books, support groups, and therapy are all excellent ways to accomplish this.
  • Not allowing oneself to become cut off from others, but being in consistent healthy relationships with like-minded women (extroverts need more of this than introverts do). ((I’d counter-argue that introverts like me tend to isolate even more so and need community and connections as much as extroverts.))
  • Spending enough alone time to recuperate and recollect one’s thoughts (introverts need more of this than extroverts do).
  • My own addition: TAKE YOUR VITAMINS! If nothing else, you know that your body is getting basic and good nutrition it desperately needs in trying times.

    Self Care is NOT:

  • The same as comfort, which may include comfort foods, TV, pedicures, or shopping sprees. Although these are all great, an excess of these can actually elevate one’s stress level.

    Some final thoughts of Self Care:

  • While the comforts mentioned above are good in moderation, remember not to substitute comfort for self care; doing so will damage us physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
  • Use moderation with comforts, including TV (your brain is less active when you are watching TV than when you are asleep—mental activity actually helps us reprocess stress, thus helping us recuperate).
  • Do something creative everyday (even if for only 20 minutes). You will be surprised how much this one thing will refresh you.

    I found this at: Self Care for Women: Taking Care of Yourself 101 | Suite101.com

  • Other self-care tips
  • Seven Blunders of the World by Gandhi

    Seven Blunders of the World by Gandhi

    Seven Blunders of the World

    1. Wealth without work

    2. Pleasure without conscience

    3. Knowledge without character

    4. Commerce without morality

    5. Science without humanity

    6. Worship without sacrifice

    7. Politics without principle

    —Mahatma Gandhi

    The Seven Blunders of the World is a list that Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi gave to his grandson Arun Gandhi, written on a piece of paper, on their final day together, shortly before his assassination in 1948. Gandhi called these acts of “passive violence,” and said that preventing these is the best way to prevent one’s self and society from reaching a point of violence.



    Decide What You Want

    Decide What You Want

    “The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.” ~Ben Stein

    There are no magical fixes; it’s up to you. You have to pass through the “easier said than done” thought, get over your own self-imposed limitations, and decide what it is you want. It’s so easy to do something you’re good at but don’t love. I have a friend who’s worked for the same company for 13 years because she’s good at what she does and she gets paid well for her good work. But from the beginning she promised herself that she would only do this job until she found something more “her,” and now she’s reeling from the fact that that was 13 years ago. She’s one of the smartest women I know, and she could do anything she set her mind to, I know it…but does she? I’m creeping up on 10 years in my line of work and I still wonder if this is what I want…or is there something more, something greater? Not necessarily greater in scope, but just greater for me. This isn’t a challenge for you to change life courses to go be an astronaut because it’s the loftiest career out there…it’s finding the loftiest place for YOU and ME in this world.

    The decision itself may be difficult, but certainly not worth stressing and losing sleep over (pointing my finger at myself on that one) – this is a good and powerful move toward opening yourself up to new opportunities because you’re stopping long enough to listen to your heart and follow what it already knows it wants. You already know what you want…it’s just the world or your family or your paycheck or other outside factors have made the picture a little hazy. It’s like suddenly seeing 50 red Toyota Echoes (do they even come in red?) the day you buy one…when you finally make a decision on what it is you want, you’ll start seeing opportunities to help you get there that have been there all along.



    Here’s a great blog on HOW TO DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT.

    And of course, to include my quirky humor, here’s a video on how to make a decision like a ninja. I love this guy, and if you don’t at least crack a smile, we need to have words.